Don't be a Skeeze Bag

Even being "separated" from my husband since Dec and him knowing that I am dating I still have yet to have sex w/ anyone else. Now there are multiple reasons why but the one we are talking about today is...I'm scared!
When I was last single, which was long loooooong ago, I was still a teenager. I met Fat Guy and started dating him when I was 1 month from my 18 birthday. So I have never been out in the world as a single adult. Now in JR High I started "dating" a boy name Justin. He was my first everything(once in HS, jeez people). But soon after there was Dave, Matt, Kevin, Daniel, Matt, Scott... Yeah I'm not naming them all, point is once I got the..um...ball rolling there was no stopping me. I met random people and made choices w/o thinking them thru. I put myself in situations that when I look back now I am surprised I survived. But I had a lot of fun and I did survive.
Fast forward to now. Not a lot has actually changed out there, but I have. Like I have said before I am not saving myself and I am not even setting a time frame or anything on the waiting period to ride this ride. But I don't want to meet at a guys apt/house/beach house and don't want him to be expecting sex. Lets meet somewhere and go from there. Why is that too much to ask?
Also please don't have cyber/texting convo's w/ me before we meet in person. And I don't know if I prefer to see all your package either. I mean if you offer I'm not gonna say no bc curiosity gets the best of me, but I don't wanna know everything right away. Takes away the fun. Out of all the guys who started chatting w/ me and sent me pics, sexting/cybering, I have met 2 out of too many to count. Interest seems to go out the window if you share too much in the beginning.

Bottom line: Men and Women need to stick to the old school rules of dating. There can still be casual sex, but a common level of trust has to be established first. So coffee or something first, then we can get on w/ the spreading of syphagonaherpelaids.